The hardest part about moving on from a broken relationship is moving on. Really it is all in the phrase “moving on”. When you are with someone, you spend a lot of time talking or making mental notes about the things you want to talk about. You manage your schedule in consideration of the other person as much as you can and trust me breaking away from that can be pretty difficult. You do not always want an ex back, especially if the conditions around which you broke up still exist, but breaking loose from the routine takes some work, especially for us girls.
Delm, it’s the bloody routine. You talked five times a day, had movie nights once in two months, went on holiday together once a year, used to go to church together on Sundays, spent the last three valentine’s day together. You know all his phone numbers, his best – friend, the names of his aunties and uncles, you talked about his ex’s and why things ended and the list goes on. And then all of a sudden, one day, it ends. Regardless of who ends it there is still some space and time to fill. Have you ever heard about the rebound concept? Aha it is all about filling that empty space.
A few weeks ago, my very good friend told me she went off Instagram because it was a waste of her time and because she thought she will rather do more important things such as reading, managing her business and career. By the time she was done speaking to me, I had this “ah it is true o” experience.
After much analysis I realized I spent a lot of time scrolling through my phone to either update a picture on Instagram or to view other people’s updates. In fact I made two Instagram videos. I could really use my time doing more productive things. It is a good argument to say that not everyone on Instagram is addicted to Instagram, correct.
However, I thought to let it go altogether for two reasons. The people that are really in my life, know what is going on already two since I left Instagram only the people that really matter to me anyway noticed. So in my mother tongue “Ki La n fa ni” (what is the purpose).
Let me not lie “sha”, I have missed my ex and even though I don’t want us back together ever again, I still miss it – Instagram. Let us not lose sight of the fact that I am still talking about Instagram. I promise I really am. I have chosen to use the free time to read a few books and I must say I am enjoying the transition.
I am getting out of the old scrolling habit and I am back doing things that really matter; Instagram has nothing on me. It has only being two weeks so I am still very vulnerable.
With all this said I done I hope I am done with Instagram for good and that If I ever go back I will have the discipline to stay on only for as long as it is necessary.
There goes my 530 words on Instagram, just Instagram I promise.
That beng said , there is still black berry and whats app to deal with lol.